The intricacies of saying NO.
“Sure, I will be more than happy to do it.” I hate it when my niceness beats my selfishness to the punch. “@#$%^&*(*&^%$# !!!!!” is what I was thinking as I agreed to do something I have always dreaded doing with a passion. ( I am not mentioning what it is until I am done with this ordeal)
It’s hard to say no. This fucking minuscule word is the reason I have done a lot of shit I have dreaded. Or maybe “yes” is the reason and “No” would have been the solution. Anyways @#$%^&*(*&^%$#(@!$^& ! NO!
I understand “no” will limit the great opportunities I could be be receiving by turning them down because of fear and ignorance. But what the fuck! ? Why isn’t this something they take you aside in school and teach you about?
I don’t believe in the whole D.A.R.E ” just say no” bullshit because that’s not teaching people how to think. It’s just creating a fear of punishment in people. Trust me, people can overcome that fear very easily.
We should be taken aside and taught how to disagree and how it is “ok” to turn a proposal down and not be forced to do it because of a sense of propriety.
How many things have you done because you just felt like you had to say “Yes”? I know many babies that came from that yes. I am one of them. If my mother had just said ” I don’t” then she wouldn’t have had to spend the next 15 years paying for that “i do”.
Now, here I am, working on something that I can’t begin to express the frustration it gives me, eating away boxes of cookies so i don’t light up a cigarette, just because I said yes.
It really sucks because my new theme is all about the “Yes, Man” movie (which I haven’t watched). So I will start my new theme: maybe.
“Can you do something that will truly frustrate you for the sake of my happiness?”
” Maybe.”
It just opens up a whole lot more room for discussion. We could discuss the terms conditions of the agreement. That way I can say, ” Look I am going to try to do it, and I will do my best, but if I feel like breaking shit over it then I’m done, ok?”
So much better.
Well, that will be next time, because I said yes, as opposed to maybe, and now I have to go back to torture.
Goal of this week: Say more maybe.
Cherish this thought: I think marriages would work a whole lot more if people were allowed a ” Maybe I do.” You would get an agreement that would propose a trial marriage for a year, if then you like the person, you can go back and say ” Yes, I do.” Or, “No, I knew it! I just knew it!”
